When the Seasons change it is a reminder that change is an integral part of life. Nothing stays the same not the world and not you. The sun, moon and stars change every day. Just as the Universe is designed to change, you are designed to change.
Not one cell in your body will be the same as it is today.
The best preparation for change is to accept it, adapt to it, and anticipate it. Eliminate the stress and fear of change. Keep reminding yourself that nothing lasts forever. This thought is particularly helpful if you are in a bad, unsatisfactory, unwelcome or harmful season in your life.
Instead of wasting energy avoiding change encourage it. You can make large changes by making small ones. Nudge them along. If you snack or drink at night, find something else to fulfill your needs. Find another way to relax, comfort yourself, treat your boredom or lift your mood. Find another way to deal with your emotions. Find another way to control fear, worry and anxiety.
If you spend too much money on things, switch to cash for purchases. You can put the cash you would have spent on something into a box or the bank. You can feel just as good when you don’t buy something as when you do.
If your relationships are troubled, you can change the way you think about the other person and the way you interact with them. Try to understand their behavior and the pressures and situations in their life. Make allowances. Focus on their best qualities.
If you are trying to change yourself, remember that is the only person you can change. You cannot change someone else. You can change your thoughts about them and that will change your feelings about them but you cannot change their behavior or their personality. Major personality changes for yourself can appear more difficult but they are possible. Human beings are masters of change.
Patricia Frank is a Licensed Psychotherapist. She can be reached at 305-788-4864, 212-308-0309.