There is a story about Motherhood that is very touching. “After a forest fire in Yellowstone National Park, forest rangers began their trek up a mountain to assess the inferno’s damage. One ranger found a bird literally petrified in ashes, perched statuesquely on the ground at the base of a tree. Somewhat sickened by the eerie sight, he knocked over the bird with a stick. When he gently struck it, three tiny chicks scurried from under their dead mother’s wings. The loving mother, keenly aware of impending disaster, had carried her offspring to the base of the tree and had gathered them under her wings, instinctively knowing that the toxic smoke would rise. She could have flown to safety but had refused to abandon her babies. Then the blaze had arrived and the heat had scorched her small body, the mother had remained steadfast because she had been willing to die, so those under the cover of her wings would live.”
This little story captures the essence of Motherhood in all its glory. It is a story that illustrates the ideal qualities we believe mothers should possess. It may arouse feelings of gratitude to your own mother or it may make you feel sad and resentful that you did not have such a mother.
If you did not have a mother or if you did not have an ideal mother then you can be your own mother. You can learn to love and cherish yourself. It is very important to realize that you are loveable even if no one loved you or loves you. Make this belief a part of your being. Think about what you would want your mother to say to you. Talk to her and share your feelings. Tell her of your accomplishments, dreams and desires. Think about how much she would appreciate you and how proud she would be. Be nice to the child in you. Nurture yourself with love every day.
Patricia Frank is a Licensed Psychotherapist. She can be reached at 305-788-4864, 212-308-0309.