Stories written by DEBBIE MARTINEZ

The time is Now to stop the violence

Since 1968, more than 400,000 Americans have been killed with guns. Each day, an average of 34 Americans will die as a result of gun violence. This is totally unacceptable and it is time for a national conversation about the astronomical gun violence in the U.S. and how we can curb this terrible problem. The [...]

Life’s Lessons

This summer my dad passed away and even as he lay there in his final days, he taught me some life lessons in his silence. As I spent silent hour upon silent hour at his bedside, I thought of that old cliché about life being too short. As I pondered that particular one, many more [...]

The Abacos — paradise with or without a boat

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They say ignorance is bliss but in this case I was missing out on a whole new experience. I have always thought that to enjoy the Bahamas you had to own a boat. Living in Miami, talk of the Bahamas is like saying your going to Publix. I would listen as people would talk about [...]

Heaven’s Gate is in Sedona, Arizona

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Nestled between monolithic red rocks at the entrance to Boynton Canyon, long considered sacred ground by Native Americans, is The Enchantment Resort, a 70-acre retreat surrounded by the natural splendor of the Coconino National Forest. Opened in 1987 as a tennis facility, The Enchantment Resort has transformed over the years into something that can be [...]

Advice for getting through a divorce

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I think one of the most difficult things for me during this divorce is getting myself organized. I feel like I am always spinning my wheels and not being productive. I can’t even get to the bathroom in time. Well, I like to see that you still have your sense of humor. Sometimes just being [...]

Advice for getting through a divorce

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My husband was a bully when I was married to him and he continues to try to bully me even though we are divorced. He’s self-centered and it’s always about him. He has no conscience and I’m not sure he even knows what love is; and on top of it all, he is a master [...]

Advice for getting through a divorce

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I’ve been divorced for four years and have a teenage son. I work freelance, but my support is my alimony. My concern is, should I go back to work during this difficult teenage time or should I stay home and take advantage of my situation until I have no other choice financially? Returning to the [...]

Advice for getting through a divorce

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I’ve been divorced for four years and have a teenage son. I work free- lance, but my support is my alimony. My concern is, should I go back to work during this difficult teenage time or should I stay home and take advantage of my situation until I have no other choice financially? Returning to [...]

Advice for getting through a divorce

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I’ve been divorced for four years and have a teenage son. I work freelance, but my support is my alimony. My concern is, should I go back to work during this difficult teenage time or should I stay home and take advantage of my situation until I have no other choice financially? Returning to the [...]

Advice for getting through a divorce

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I am getting divorced. What do I need to do to make this transition as smooth as possible for my children and me? Create a support system for yourself. Have a great attorney, forensic accountant, estate attorney, financial planner, divorce life coach, therapist and good friends. I can’t stress enough how important it is to [...]

Advice for getting through a divorce

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I am getting divorced. What do I need to do to make this transition as smooth as possible for my children and me? Create a support system for yourself. Have a great attorney, forensic accountant, estate attorney, financial planner, divorce life coach, therapist and good friends. I can’t stress enough how important it is to [...]

Advice for getting through a divorce

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My ex-husband continues to make my life miserable. What I don’t understand is that he’s the one that had the affair. Why does he continue to act this way? Who knows and who cares? Are you going to spend your precious time and energy figuring out why? Instead, figure out how you are going to [...]

Advice for getting through a divorce - My kids are taking advantage of the divorce by using the “I’ll go live with Dad” tactic

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My kids are taking advantage of the divorce by using the “I’ll go live with Dad” tactic to get what they want. How do I stop this? You cannot be held hostage by the fear of losing your kids to living at dad’s house nor can you give in to the feeling of guilt from [...]

Advice for getting through a divorce

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I just got divorced and I’m a mess. Socially I’m out of touch and physically I’m not a happy camper. How am I at 50 going to be able to compete with 30 year olds? It’s not a competition; it’s about you being happy with you. Give yourself an honest once over. What do you [...]